Change is inevitable..

The last time I posted was nine months ago. To say a lot has happened in those nine months is the understatement of the year. I’ve been through, grown, learned and achieved so much in that time it’s insane to think of where my life was then.  In my last post, I wrote about how although bad days happen, a bad day does not mean a bad life. Little did I know, a few short months later my life was about to CHANGE.

Six months ago, I got pneumonia. For 14 days straight I could not work, I could barely eat or get out of bed. It took me 9 days just to get into the doctor to finally find out how sick I actually was. On day 1, I could barely walk to the bathroom. On day 3, I couldn’t eat without coughing uncontrollably. On day 6, my relationship of 3 1/2 years ended. On day 8, I moved out of the place I called my home and moved back in with my parents. On day 15 (my first day back to work), I put in my letter of resignation to my job at the bank. Everything was happening so fast and there was very little I was able to control. I was broken-hearted, my immune system was shot, and I was 21, feeling like the last few years of my life were a complete waste of time.

At this point, it was hard to believe that it wasn’t a bad life. It was difficult to understand why everything was happening the way it was. Everything happens for a reason, right? Well guess what?! You don’t always get to know what the reason is. That’s not easy to accept when it feels like your whole world is crumbling around you.

Now, I know this post seems like a bit of a downer but I felt it necessary to start at the beginning because it’s why I am where I am now.

Well…where am I?

I’m working at a job I don’t dread going to everyday. I’m enjoying going out on a Saturday night and letting the cute guy at the bar buy me a beer…or three. I’m having board game nights with friends and staying up way too late drinking wine with my best friend. I’m going on dinner dates and road trips and music festivals. I’ve experienced more life in the last six months than I ever have and that is an amazing feeling.

The weird thing is, although I feel like I had to start over again as if I was 18 again, I’ve never really felt like I was acting my age until recently. I’m not sure if that’s a good thing or a bad thing, but I’m working on figuring that out. The last year before all these changes happened I was obligated to make decisions that I thought were going to give me a better life in the long run even if it meant being slightly unhappy at first.

That’s the thing about change. Sometimes it sucks, sometimes it hurts, and sometimes it’s just flat out miserable but eventually it might end up being the best thing that ever happened to you. Whether it’s the end of a toxic relationship, quitting your job, or moving back to your parents house as an adult. Sometimes we have to play the hand we’re dealt and make the best of it. It’s been six months since my whole life changed and through the tears and the heartache I could not be more appreciative of the opportunity I have been given to give myself a better life than I would have settled for….

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taking the first step…

Now that I’ve officially recovered from my New Years Eve hangover and have dragged myself out of bed and back to work it’s time to get down to business. I mentioned in my last two posts about really focusing on myself this year. Between my goals financially, professionally, and personally, I am READY to make this year MINE.

Tackling all of these goals at once may do more harm than good, which is why prioritizing was the first step I had to take to figure out where I really needed to start. That’s when I realized I had a problem. I cannot tell you the last time I went over a month without buying myself something online. Whether this was clothes, makeup, or accessories…I cannot remember going more than two weeks without charging something to a credit card and just being like, “Eh, I’ll pay it off later.” Let’s just say that hasn’t really worked out for me.

That’s why this month my first challenge for myself is to BUY NOTHING. Now I don’t mean food and necessities but I mean unnecessary crap that normally I talk myself into getting because I want it. I have a keurig at home and a thermos so why do I need to buy Starbucks on my way to work? I don’t need the newest too faced palette even though it’s beautiful and smells like peaches and the shades feel like butter. I have a lot of eyeshadows in the palettes I own now that I’ve never even used. I’m not saying I’m going to become a minimalist or anything like that but I definitely need to get control of my spending.

By the end of this year I want to pay off at least two of my credit cards completely and close them. This is my first step in achieving one of my goals. Maybe it’s not the biggest step but that doesn’t matter. It’s about putting the effort in that is required. If you’re always putting in your full effort you can really do anything you put your mind to! Every. Step. Counts.

What’s your first step to achieve your goals this year?

 

-The Girl in the Glitter

Follow me on IG @thegirlintheglitter and Twitter @TheGirlNGlitter

 

back from hiatus..

Hello Everyone! I’m back from my little hiatus with lots of energy. I can’t believe it’s already December and at the same time I am SO GLAD this year is almost over. I’m pretty sure 2016 has been one of the best and worst years of my life. Which is why, starting January 1st, I’m planning a little 12 month challenge for the year of 2017. Each month brings on a different task to challenge yourself and detox your life in order to make 2017 the best year yet. The reason I decided to make this a one task per month challenge is because I thought really making a difference in your life takes time and effort. Taking your time and really putting your whole heart into becoming who you want to be. Marissa (@marissalace on IG and YouTube as well as owner of @lovelightandlace) started her #YearofYou journey just over a year ago. This was a journey of self love and positivity. Now my spin off of this is to not only embrace the concept of her #YearofYou but also use this to improve your life and achieve your goals. Goals are just dreams with a plan. So let’s make a plan. Let’s follow through together. Let’s change our lives. Also thank you to MarissaLace for being her very inspiring self and motivating me to do this. Subscribe to my blog posts to become a part of the journey. Time to live your best life.

 

-The Girl in the Glitter

Follow me on instagram (@thegirlintheglitter) and twitter (@thegirlnglitter)

Turn your dreams into achievable goals.

Have you ever seen something and it gives you this overwhelming of desire? That’s a calling. Sometimes it almost feels like anxiety when it falls over you. Sweaty palms, increased heart rate, those recurring thoughts that often cause the other symptoms to multiply…all because you caught a glimpse at the type of lifestyle or career you wish you could have. I know it might seem scary, but it is completely possible to achieve whatever you put your mind to. No, really, it’s not just a cliche. I’m not saying you’re going to wake up a millionaire one day, or that the dream job is going to just fall into your lap (not that, that isn’t possible). I AM saying that if you put your mind towards something and work your ass for it, you CAN achieve it.

Wake up and work hard. Does your job not pay enough or give you enough hours? Find another one. No education? Educate yourself. Take a class or do research and study on your own. Some jobs offer their own certification program. It might not be a degree from a university but it is something on your resume telling your future employer, “Hey, look at me!” Two years ago I was working a no-opportunity job that made gave me shitty hours and told me I was never good enough. A year ago I was working two jobs, getting almost no sleep and went almost a month with no day off and still wasn’t making enough to live on my own. But I was working hard? Why wasn’t it paying off? Because working with no goal in mind is like driving with no destination and wondering why you’re not there yet. Think about where you want to be in a year, 5 years, 10 years.. Make a plan. Make a vision board if that’s your thing. Listen to motivational speech videos on YouTube (seriously, they are amazing). Do whatever makes you feel inspired and do what you have to, to achieve it.

Last summer, I decided I wanted to buy a new car by March 2016. I wanted to do it on my own, no cosigner, no financial help from anyone. So I worked my ass off. In six months of starting my new job I became an assistant manager. I did this with no prior experience in anything but bussing tables and kissing rude wino’s asses just to make $20 bucks at the end of the night from servers that didn’t want to give me the 1.5 percent of sales that I rightfully deserved (#stillmad). I worked double days at both jobs for weeks. Using every paycheck to stash towards a future car payment or pay my credit cards to keep them at 30% of my credit limits so my credit score would be the best it could be for a 20 year old. I set a goal, had a plan, and I bought my brand new car in December of 2015.

Once I achieved my goal however, I sat on my ass and let the laziness set back in. I forgot what I was working towards. Where do I want to be in a year? What do I visualize for myself? How am I going to achieve that? Well, the answers to those questions bring me to my next piece of advice…

Keep your goals and ambitions to yourself.

The biggest motivator is yourself. Keep it that way. I’m not saying to keep your dreams from your best friends or family who love and support you no matter what. I just know that with everyone sharing every detail of their life on social media/blogs, it’s easy to feel like you want to shout your plans from the rooftops. However, no matter how loud you shout it, the only way to achieve the dreams and goals you want is to work towards them everyday. Never forget that.

-The Girl in the Glitter

P.S. This time next year, I MIGHT let you know what I had planned for the future. 😉

 

 

 

Awakening My Inner Goal Digger

For two years after graduation, I really had no plan for what I was going to do, who I was working towards being, or why the hell I was even getting up in the morning. Some days I didn’t want to get out of bed. I didn’t want to get up and go out there and do whatever it was I was being told by other people that I was supposed to be doing. So this left me needing to make some very important life decisions.

In April of 2015 I started a new part-time job in a small city about 30 minutes away from where I was living at the time. I was commuting before and after my shifts at the restaurant I had already been working at since I was 18. I was broken hearted, stressed, lost…I mean the list could go on. Long story short, I was in a bad place. I needed to wake up and figure out what I was really doing.

At first, working two jobs was easy. Half a day at one place, hop in the car and drive to the other place. Simple right? Well then there was the no days off thing. Holy crap that is hard! I think the longest I went was 21 days before my brain had officially turned into mush and I asked my coworkers to help me switch some shifts for some personal time, you know, one whole day off from both jobs. I don’t care how hard you grind, everyone needs a break at sometimes otherwise your head WILL explode.

I got a little off track there, okay so when I started this new job I really wanted to reinvent myself and reevaluate what my goals were. Prioritize my life and really get going on what was best for me and my future. I often have a rough time staying motivated. I can get inspired by something, become really excited for a while but slowly lose focus and end up forgetting or dropping out altogether. This time though, dropping out was not an option. I was determined to pay down my credit card debt until my credit score was good enough to buy myself a new car, on my own, without a cosigner. To do that I needed to stay motivated even when I was exhausted.

How do you do that though? What gets a person who sucks at staying motivated to stay motivated?

One word. QUOTES.

It might sound cliche but going through Pinterest or finding inspirational Instagram pages (@bossbabe is one of my favorites) that go along with what you’re working towards gets you going! For me it was the fire behind the posts. The following. I wasn’t the only one out there getting my hustle on and it was awesome. Now every time I’m feeling down or unmotivated, I pop on and BAM there’s a million other girls standing together to get motivated and slay their days. I also loved reading articles on everyday routines of successful women. Business women who have to stay motivated and work hard everyday to maintain their success and build it further.

It doesn’t take much to awaken your inner boss. Go online, read articles, read quotes. Do research for fun and discover the amazing world of people out there staring life in the face, setting goals, and never stopping until they reach them. Everybody has their own thing that keeps them motivated. What’s yours?

-The Girl in the Glitter